Why must we look outside of ourselves for the affection that is ours?
We all want to be and feel loved. Why must we look outside of ourselves for the affection that is ours? I would ask: when did I stop loving myself, believing in myself? At what point did I disassociate love from sex?
We are not sexual objects, we are subjects.
Religion, economic interests and abuse of power have intentionally created a disassociation of love and sexuality, romanticizing the first and denaturalizing the second, thus generating a deep conflict in human beings. A conflict of separation and alienation; alienation from our very natures, fear of desires which we don’t understand, we are easily manipulated.
Sex has been tabu for a long time in many cultures.
In its place, morality and ethics has been introduced, unconsciously for many; “the culture of suffering” and of fear, sacrifice and duty.
This lack of connection of respect, self love and vulnerability to pleasure and enjoyment of life has generated diverse ways of looking for this innate loving and sexual connection via drugs, risky sexual behaviour, prostitution, abuse of power in relationships, etc.
The lack of sexual, emotional and affective knowledge and education in schools and families is a priority to be resolved.
The future of a more conscientious society, with more individual freedom, in which particular choices in life are not created from fear or duty but rather from care and love is an individual and political responsibility of each and every one of us.
Sexual and institutional gender violence and abuse of power are issues that need to be confronted from this perspective.
To be free is to have a higher level of consciousness of who we are, where we come from (literally, family unit and culture) and where we are going (individually and as a society).
Bibliography: It is my pleasure, Maria y Maya Rodale. Sacred Pleasure, Riane Eisler. Gestación, nacimiento y crianza desde el Sur, Maria Fuentes Caballero. Los Órdenes del amor, Bert Hellinger.
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